Know Your Own Strength
- Annett
- Jan 1
- 3 min read
What the last year has taught me was to not be afraid when life throws its difficulties.
When the going gets tough I want to run.
When I imagine what the future holds for my children, I sometimes get scared and worry if what I do now makes a difference or not?
Being a parent means trial and erroring and figuring out what works and what doesn’t.
Parenting Right Or Wrong?
In my own experience, I want to get it right and constantly question what wrong and right are?
When it comes to making a decision, I wish there was an authority outside of me that tells me what to do.
Which is such a contradiction because at the same time when I am being told what to do, I often resist and reject the advice.
Discovering a pattern such as this, I want to go deeper and explore what led to my questioning myself and yet not accepting others’ answers as ultimate truth?
What I needed to see was that the answer lies in the golden middle.
Your Unique Solutions
Sharing my concerns and questions with someone, creates a space for my unique solutions to come through.
Does unique mean special and better than others?
No.
It means that every parent’s individual circumstance has never been here before.
Some might share similar challenges, such as:
🌪️ Separation
🌪️ (Medical) diagnosis
🌪️ Dealing with loss and grief
🌪️ Financial limitations or
🌪️ Overcoming addiction.
However, we are often faced with new life scenarios the older our children grow.
Parenting & AI?
A father asked me recently what about parenting in the age of AI?
I believe that my responsibility as a parent is to help my children know her and his inner strength first.
Know your Own Strength
What is so beautiful about our human experience is that you have come here to make your specific contribution.
To share your journey and what you have learned to help others grow and connect with you for who you are.
How Can You Accept Who You Are?
I had the privilege of spending time with friends during this holiday season who helped bring me closer to who I am.
During my early years in this body when making mistakes, I often received criticism.
The caregiver who corrected me or tried to control my decisions probably wanted me to be and do better.
Criticism Leads To Unworthiness?
Here is what I have learned from this Adlerian parenting approach.
As a young child I determined if I was good or bad, right or wrong based on others’ reaction to my behaviour and choices I made.
It was not the adult’s fault to have an outburst after I broke something.
It was my decision to believe that I am not worthy or good enough.
How do we change a paradigm such as this?
Loving The Imperfections
As a mother and woman, I needed to experience to be loved and valued inclusive of my imperfections.
This was the year where I allowed others to truly see me.
Caregivers - particularly mothers - I have been guiding as a ‘parent encourager’ struggle most with how hard they are on themselves.
Shifting their parental self-talk from beating themselves up for when they believe they get it wrong to feeling more neutral, less reactive and calmer – is a transformation and a gift.
You Deserve A Calmer Home
My services can be booked as the following packages:
🌱 Self-paced Parenting Training
🌱 Embracing Boundaries (1:1 Private)
🌱 Effortless Flow (Group Membership)
🌱 V.I.P. (Ideal for a Couple)
➡️ Click for more https://www.effortlessparenting.ie/services
In addition, this January 2026 you have an opportunity to book 1 single session (1h) with me.
To start your year feeling capable, competent and confident about your family’s co-operation – you only pay me what you can afford.
Donation Based: I opened up limited space for you until the 31st January 2026.
You choose a time and date that suit you by clicking here:
In Discount Code add ‘JAN26’.
A link will follow to invite you to pay your fee which a calmer home is worth to you.
Virtual or In Person.
(Confirming humanity: written by annett)
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