A couple’s values can differ

What would parenting be like if you had peace and harmony with your partner when it comes to child rearing aspects - you disagree on?

I have come to treasure my VIP service with couples.

When 2 people meet there is so much joy and a child being brought into this world carries life’s ultimate meaning for most.

Expecting our first born, I asked the becoming father how he wanted to parent and “which philosophy” to go by?

Today we still smile when remembering his reply:

“Same as everyone: sweets when they’re good and slaps when they’re bad.”

Struggling as an adult with this parenting style’s long-term effect, I wanted to do everything differently.

Out of the new-born stage, I was on a quest for a parenting approach that was the golden middle.

Neither punitive, nor permissive.

Seek and you shall find.

My 8-month-old wrapped around me, I attended a parenting course that changed my life.

The early years were absolutely exhausting.

Working parents can be so busy, sleep-deprived and overwhelmed that there is almost no capacity to learn new skills.

The more stressed we are, the further back into our childhood we reach.

Unaware, we catapult back with a reaction that others role modelled to us at some stage.

Clients share: “I hear myself repeat what my mother/father said.”

If we are hard-wired to follow the footsteps of those who came before us, then this is the most hopeful and encouraging message of this post.

It means that a parent’s influence on their offspring is beyond their wildest imagination.

You can drop the fear that your child won’t love you if you say ‘No’.

Your growing son/daughter loves you so unconditionally that the first 5-7 years he/she learns through observing what you do.

The ability of critical thinking and reasoning comes after.

What I mean by that is no matter what behaviour or action a young person chooses, he or she is simply trial and erroring how to belong to you.

Couples’ minds are blown and feel excited when the skill we practise, is effective and applied at home.

It invites their child to respond in a more meaningful way.

Care-givers feel encouraged and return interested to learn more.

With Alfred Adler’s teachings: the belief behind human behaviour is being revealed and a recognition reflex can set you free.

Accessing that which lies hidden, allows reactive behaviour to change.

This approach is so magical, I feel limited describing my clients’ transformation.

Therefore, I am offering the following:

Over the next few weeks, I am opening a select few spaces whereby you pay me only after your first session is complete. (Valid for May/June 2025)

This removes all risk and hesitation.

Contact me here: effortlessparenting@gmail.com

Find out how to role model your value through a specific parenting tool.

The more variety the 2 of you offer, the more your future adult will benefit.

The energy spent on worrying how to parent and being conflicted, can instead be used on what brings you both joy.

(Confirming humanity: written by annett)