Last weekend, I stepped into a toy store with my child after what felt like years and years not having been inside one.
It was one of those moments where I wondered how much money I had saved over all these years because I had access to skills that built on intrinsic motivation.
Does this mean my children always do what I say?
Absolutely not.
What I have been learning is that every challenge is an opportunity to grow skills for life.
My client shared with me that she has all these great intentions to say ‘No’.
Then when she finds herself in a shop, she ends up giving in for an easy life.
By the time this mother got home she felt helpless, guilty and a slight hint of despair when the child being asked to put away the shoes, reacts with an assertive: No.
In this moment her thought is: “After all I have done and given for you...”
Spending lots of money on rewards, bribes and treats often teaches a child in the longterm that there are no boundaries and life is all about getting.
In only one session with me this mother got access to her child’s belief behind the behaviour.
Finally, she felt she could be the mum she had always intended to be, going into the shop - she was now:
🌱 prepared
🌱 didn’t need to buy her child anything
🌱 and still felt loved.
“My child is so much more confident and calmer.”
She commented about her experience leaving the supermarket.
Not only are parents saving money, the child also learns about getting what they need and not necessarily about getting what they want.
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💫 healthy future consumers
💫 others to respect your boundary
💫 and feeling loved and assertive
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Holding space for your child and remembering that a ’No’ to them means a ‘Yes’ to you and a longterm ‘Yes’ to them - is what you will gain from investing into yourself and becoming a calmer parent.
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