Why learn parenting skills?
- Annett
- Jul 4
- 2 min read
When being asked what this parenting training is about, I tend to answer the question with an example from my own journey.
My most recent challenge has been follow-through of tasks assigned to family members for our latest arrival.
Our little kitten Senna (who takes off faster than a former race car driver) has been learning to use the litter tray in her new home.
As you can imagine when getting your bearings with new surroundings, you can sometimes get lost.
From having experienced how fast kittens learn in the past, we feel reassured that she will get there.
It’s a process of being patient and allowing time for training to when eventually we will take her learned skill for granted.
Soon, we won’t even remember our current workload.
Becoming a parent is free if nature allows it to be.
No test needs to be passed for suitability.
Nor do we get a chance to try it out and give it back (if it’s not for us) like an item of clothing, leaving a changing room.
I am not comparing having a child to having a pet or buying a top.
What I am saying is that parenting doesn’t always come naturally.
Unlike a job, many often receive a long education for - there seems to be an unwritten law in society that parenting is something you just have to “get right” by yourself.
Ideally, we all want a cooperative, respectful and loving child and yet are faced with defiance when asking to:
🌱 Turn off the screen
🌱 Tidy the room
🌱 Clean up a pet’s poo
🌱 Going to bed
🌱 or shouting less.
What is different about this parenting training vs. reading the answer you have at the tip of your finger?
Neuroscience teaches us that we don’t learn how to react differently through rational arguments but through experiencing something new.
Does a child learn from a parent’s reaction?
When shouting is met with shouting, respectful communication in future conflict, is most likely not the result.
In the heat of the moment, we react based on our experience rather than the latest parenting research suggested which we just read.
Experiencing and practising how to respond in a safe environment (being able to reflect), is what brings the awareness to remain calm back at home.
A mother shared when I asked about the difficult task of working from home and offered to help me promote this incredible parenting style:
“I can’t recommend your courses enough.
I feel like we have coped very well as a family through this because of the work we had done over the last couple of years.
I really have found your teaching and the journey it sent us on to be life changing for us all...thank you 😊”
Aoife Deane
My upcoming In Person 2h-event on Saturday, 19th July in East Cork is an opportunity to learn 1 of 52 Positive Discipline parenting skills that may last a lifetime.
For more information and registration click here:
(Confirming humanity: written by annett)
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